Emotionally Shutdown: 7 Danger Signs to Watch For

Many women I coach confide their frustration about how they keep "putting themselves out there" and just can't seem to attract the right guy (or any guys!).



I swear there's nothing that will test your ego, patience or belief that a higher power actually exits more than being single - especially when single is NOT your goal, am I right?



Often new clients explain they're doing everything they know to be attractive to men: Getting an online profile, being socially active, staying fit, dressing well, good conversationalist etc... This is all good, but it will not bringing you any closer to your soul mate if you continue to step over or avoid healing the past.



When you don't heal the past, unresolved issues keep a part of your heart shutdown.



You might feel free, open and ready to jump into a relationship but, if your external actions are not producing the results you want, it's a telling sign there's something not quite right on the inside and you have some walls up around your heart.



The unhealed parts of you have a funny way of staying hidden and locked securely in the back vault giving you the illusion you're free and clear. But, trust me, those locks burst off and quickly surface with feelings of anger, low self esteem and unworthiness the minute a guy doesn't call back, you experience a long stretch of being single or you continually attract the wrong guy.



If you were truly healed of all past pain, the above examples wouldn't press any emotional buttons and you'd be walking around with an attitude of gratitude for your life every day and have a deep knowing that your man is on his way and will show up at the perfect moment.



Want to know if you're shutdown? Here are the 7 top signs I look for when I start with new clients:



7 Signs Your Shutdown:



1. Keep attracting emotionally "unavailable" men

2. Enter into and exit relationships quickly

3. Your afraid of choosing the wrong partner

4. Holding onto blame and anger with one or more past partners

5. Feel you can't trust men and/or you're going to be taken advantage of

6. Afraid to communicate your needs and often compromise in relationships

7. It's been at least 3 years since you've had a long term relationship



If you said "yes" to even ONE of these examples, you've already entered the danger zone and it's impacting your chances of attracting a healthy relationship.



So what can you do to shift this?



1. Take yourself out of the dating game. Trying to operate on top of issues will only create further damage and low self - esteem.



2. Do the inner work. Look at see where you're still holding onto any anger, resentment or heartbreak from past relationships.